So here I was sitting with two very obvious pregnant women. (Normally I wouldn't be in this type of setting, but I was trying to mingle) Another lady walks up and sits down as well. It goes something like this:
Lady says to 1st woman: It's nice to meet you! How far along are you?
1st woman answers
Lady: Is this your first child?
1st woman answers
Lady: Oh, that's wonderful, what a blessing. Is it a boy or girl?
1st woman anwers
Lady to ME: "Do you only have one child?"
Me: Yes
Lady to Me: Are you going to have more?
Me: Well, umm my husband and I are in the process of adopting.
Lady to Me: Oh, I hear that takes a long time."
Me: Yes it can.
Lady to Me: Why are you adopting?
Me: I would suppose the same reason these women are pregnant....
Lady to Me: Well, good luck to you."
Lady to 2nd woman: "Is this your first pregnancy?"
2nd woman answers, Lady continues asking Woman 1&2 questions regarding pregnancy and children and not another word to me.
Needless to say I was ready to burst into tears....
First off, I find it offensive when people ask me if I'm going to have more children. Really, do you need to tell me that adoption can take a long time? Do you really think that I don't know this!? And the 2nd question completely BLEW me away... a person would never ask a pregnant woman why she was pregnant... This is not the first time (nor will it be the last I'm sure) that I've heard hurtful comments. I've realized that the statement "Good luck" is a dismissing of the topic. There was/is clearly a different vibe I get from others when adoption is mentioned. Almost like I can't be included in their talk because I'm expanding my family differently. People (women mostly) tend to get all excited when a pregnant woman is around, but yet they can't show me the same amount of excitement. I know we are becoming a family in a different way, but it's just as exciting for us. I don't understand why others can't see that as well. And that's my gripe today! I promise I won't gripe anymore! (for awhile!)
I decided to start this blog so family and friends can keep up with us (and possibly get to know us better). Although technology is so far advanced, it seems difficult to keep in touch with each and every person. Even so, we think of you often. We are starting a new path in our lives and would very much like to share it with those we love. I'll give updates, throw some tidbits of adoption info out there, and tell some of my thoughts and feelings as we go along!
August 2013
Just so you know...
There is absolutely no rhyme or reason to my, er I mean "our' blog. When the mood hits me I write about something. I don't mean to offend anyone... certainly not my goal. I just want people to learn about us and get to know us better. We like comments, so feel free to post some!
Sunday, September 18, 2011
Friday, September 16, 2011
Celebrate the Small Things
Well, it's been a LONG time that I've been able to say this: Life is good! We've had quite a few changes over the last month or so. It's getting easier coming home to dog-less house. It's amazing how much my life (especially in the end) revolved around Samps. I still miss him like crazy, but it's getting better. I started working at a preschool as an assistant teacher. I might add, that I absolutely LOVE it! Miss K is also going to preschool there and she seems to enjoy it. She thinks she is such a big girl for going to school! I'm not in her class, so I don't see her the few hours that we are there. Well, not unless I need to go peek at her :) In October Nick is going to start working nights, so we are getting ready to switch gears for that as well. My lastest great news is that I won a $100 gift card to Wal-Mart. I was doing a little happy dance saying "Yay, I won, I won!" Nick didn't find it near as cool as I did. We recently had some other pretty exciting news as well, but I'll not get into that just yet. I know, I know... I hate when people do that too! As of right now, I'm celebrating the small things in life. Regardless of how everything turns out, I'm happy and excited in this moment!
Monday, August 29, 2011
Our Beautiful Ballerina
I happened to snap (with my phone) this picture of K on her first day of ballet and I thought it turned out great!
Short and Sweet
I realized that I haven't written (err typed) on this blog in a month! So here's a quick little update!
Yep that's about it! Okay, okay I'll elaborate a little! As far as the adoption, well it's still going. So far, no contacts. We are starting to work on all of our paperwork again, as it has to be updated every 12 months. September marks our 8 month waiting anniversary of being "on the books." And, I think that's about it! Short and sweet (like me!).
Yep that's about it! Okay, okay I'll elaborate a little! As far as the adoption, well it's still going. So far, no contacts. We are starting to work on all of our paperwork again, as it has to be updated every 12 months. September marks our 8 month waiting anniversary of being "on the books." And, I think that's about it! Short and sweet (like me!).
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Sampson
Last Friday we had to say goodbye our sweet boy. He had declined rapidly in the last couple of weeks. I spent a lot of time with him on his last day. It broke my heart seeing him suffer. Everything I do reminds me of him. Just like the night after he passed when I was cooking dinner. He couldn't resist the smell of chicken, and that was the only "people' food that I would sneak to him. He would always get so excited when I was fixing it! And then in his last few weeks I boiled chicken just for him, cut it up, and fed it to him. Needless to say fixing dinner that night, knowing that he wasn't going to be at the edge of the kitchen looking up at me, brought me to tears. I know we made the right decision on letting him go, but it certainly doesn't make the pain go away. We miss him terribly, but glad that he is no longer suffering.
Sunday, August 7, 2011
Canning Away!
My garden, unlike last year, has taken on a mind of it's own. I'm embarrassed to even post pictures of the garden because it's gotten completely out of control! I planted based on our garden from last year. It's AMAZING what different soil can do! The things that I planted this year have grown at least 3x as big as they did last year. Which would be okay, but I planted more of each plant and we had less space. Needless to say, we had a crazy amount of fruit and vegetables. So far we've picked green beans, tomatoes, jalapenos, zucchini, watermelon, tomatoes, jalapenos, bell peppers, cucumbers, and you guessed it, tomatoes and jalapenos. The only things that haven't yielded anything (yet) is broccoli (which may not because it's a cool weather vegetable), cantaloupe (I was a little late getting those seeds out), and carrots (which, I think take a really long time to do anything). Over all I'm pleased with the outcome. Our good friends also had an abundant amount of tomatoes, so we decided to combine everything and make some salsa and pickled jalapenos. It's the first time that Nick and I have ever canned (although we grew up with our parents doing it). We are pretty happy with the results! I'm just glad we were able to use everything and it not go to waste!
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| We're ready to go to our friends house! |
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| All the veggies from our garden (minus the store bought onions) |
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| The men were chopping too! And sneaking bites :) |
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| All the 'maters after we peeled them. |
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| K and I acting silly while waiting for the finished product! |
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| Mmmmm, yummy salsa! |
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| All finished! |
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Our Boy
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| My absolute favorite picture of Samps! |
This blog has been sittin around for the last week or so. I didn't publish it when I first wrote it, I guess thinking that it would make it "more" real.
The last month has been a whirlwind of visits to the vet office. Our big boy wasn't acting well and isn't getting much better. After numerous visits, we are finally getting somewhere, but not exactly where we thought it would be or want it to be. We've had to make a very difficult decision on what to do about our boy. I see a more difficult decision in the near future. The outcome is inevitable.. Although my head understands, my heart is having a hard time with it. It's so hard to see him go downhill, he's not his usually peppy self, and he looks at me with those big brown eyes. He can no longer sit, and can't stand for long periods of time, so he mainly lays around all day. His appetite is almost non existent, but at times he will eat if I hand feed him.
I remember when I was pregnant with K we were worried how he was going to act with a new baby. He hadn't been around babies, or kids for that matter, other than a few occasions. Our fears were soon put to rest! He was so good with her. The first couple weeks he was nervous and wondering why that thing in the bassinet kept making noise. Before too long he would come get us if she stirred or cried. He adjusted well to not being the center of attention any longer. I think he knew with in a year or two he was going to be in for some pretty sweet treats!
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